Question by mlbb24a: What do you think this girl was trying to tell me?

The girl (lets call her Jane – Jane is a very confident girl) and I had met once before, at a friend’s party, where we talked for a few hours. That was several months ago. We share several mutual friends through a club connection. Jane’s party started on Friday. This is what happened afterward.

Jane’s danced really closely with me and a few more guys at her birthday party and repeatedly encouraged me to “keep going”, using my name often. -> Jane told our friend she’d never “hook up” with any of the people from his parties (I was walking with them outside at the time) , when I replied with “oh, that hurts” she remained quite as our friend whispered “she’s kidding.” -> Being partners in an outdoor game and constantly high-fiving, touching, whispering and general friendliness. -> She told me to take my shirt off, as we relaxed outside that night. I refused. (We were still with our friends) -> Jane shared a drink with me, after I asked. She said she would be more than happy to do so. -> She put two bottle caps in my chest pocket and rubbed them down and in (hard for me to explain); our eyes locked. I had no response other than returning her gaze. -> We woke up in our mutual friend’s living room and read fetish porn magazines and laugh while she talked about her private areas and she used descriptive language…it reads as awkward as it was for me. During this time we were also sharing a breakfast. Our friend was in the kitchen. It was the closest we were to being alone the whole weekend. She was half-cuddled up by me. Her legs were up on the couch and she was close enough that she was holding half of the magazine while I held the other. -> A long story but to shorten it: she told our friend and myself that she isn’t marketing herself to me. -> She rested an arm across my thigh/into my lap as she checked her glove box with her other hand while I’m in the passenger seat.

Oh, at one point she brought up something that happened 6-months ago, the last time we spent any more than five minutes together.

Since this party we’ve only communicated online and all exchanges have been cordial, with her always “shouting” (putting in caps) my last name [in fact, she commented on a photo of us with just my last name].

As I’ve told the others I’ve shared this with, I have no experience taking things like this further. All my relationships have stemmed from gradually getting to know a girl, connecting on many levels.

Please feel free to ask questions, as I’d really like any feedback you can provide. I’ll be honest.

Note that I’m long out of high school and seeing her regularly is not an option as she’s a college friend. She also has a boyfriend of almost two years; however, he was not at the party. All I really want or need to know is what she was thinking *at the time.*

Best answer:

Answer by Shane
She fancied you and wanted your attention. Simple as that.

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